Jump into the unknown with open arms

I’ll admit it.  The unknown scares the ____ out of me.

And I’m sure it scares the ____ out of many other people.

There is this weird fear that keeps us contained in our safe little box.  It’s our comfort zone.  Why do something else when you can do what you know right?

We all have this defense mechanism that protects us.  As humans, we want to feel safe.  It’s natural.  It makes complete sense!  If we are safe, we will survive.  The laws of evolution supports this in a way.  Why else would a mama bird protect her eggs?

When we leave this safe haven and go into the unknown, nothing is guaranteed.  The chance of failure increases.  Our protective shield comes up and says, “This is not safe.”

But what if being “safe” closes us off from new opportunities?

Of course there are different levels of “being safe” and I’m not talking about putting yourself in any danger, but rather stepping out of our comfort zone.

However, often times, we are our own barriers and sometimes we don’t even realize it.

We all have dreams, but how many of us actually go after them?

Be honest with yourself…

Have you gone after a dream?

If not, why?  What’s stopping you?

My excuse was fear.  Last year, I was working at a Fortune 500 company.  I was making a fairly decent living.  But I was also very unhappy.  I didn’t believe in the company anymore and I knew I was meant to do something else.  My heart was telling me to leave and do something that will help others.  That was my dream…to make an positive impact on the world.

I couldn’t. I didn’t know how to leave.  I was too afraid to leave my comfortable life.  I mean, how could I leave a 6 figure job for nothing?

Crazy talk right?

But I couldn’t shake this feeling of that the job was robbing me of my happiness.  I was seriously hating my job and dreaded coming into work.  No one would have known because I faked my happiness.  I did truly like most of my co-workers, but I hated all the internal politics and didn’t enjoy my job.  I felt stuck.  Very stuck!

One day I asked myself, “Is this it?”  “Is this how I want to live the rest of my life?”

NO!

That day I had to make a choice and I chose to follow my heart despite all the reservations and the unknown.  So I left.

The unknown is scary.  And I was scared…really scared.

While deciding if I should forge a new path for myself, I had to choose to either embrace the unknown or to fight it.

To me, embracing the unknown means to go after something with open arms and and open heart.  Being able to dance with life and where ever it takes you.  Being able to be vulnerable with people and allowing new opportunities and friendships to enter your life.

I could either do that or be afraid and stifle my desires and visions for my life.

So I embraced my new path and forged ahead, even though I didn’t know how.  I tried and failed and tried and failed.  But I never let the failure derail me.  The failures were an opportunity to learn and I kept looking for more opportunities to grow.

I started putting myself out there and invited people I didn’t know  to join me on this journey via {the JOY depot}.  To my surprise, many people were very willing to support this site.  I’ve met some amazing musicians, healers, teachers, and artists by simply being willing to ask for their support.  I didn’t let my thoughts and doubts stop me, but rather push through them.

Embracing the unknown allows new opportunities emerge!

And you can create these opportunities too!

How?

Start by looking at your life.  Ask yourself:

  1. Where you’ve been playing it safe?
  2. What’s keeping you there?
  3. What do you want to accomplish?
  4. Did you accomplish it?
  5. If not, why?

Pick something you want to achieve and go after it.

You may be thinking, “Hey, wait a minute.  I can’t do that.”

No problem.  Your fear is talking.

But here’s a perfect opportunity for you to step into uncharted territory – to move past your fear.

Take one action.  Just one towards your dream, desire, goal.  It doesn’t have to be a big one like mine (aka quitting a job).  It can be anything.  Even telling someone about your goal is a step.  Just take one.  And keep on taking one step at a time.  You don’t have to know how to do everything.  Just go for it.

Who knows, you may just thank yourself for it down the road!

*Photo Credit: {the JOY depot}

P.S. Yes, that’s a picture of me flying through the air!  Talk about letting go of my fear of heights!

 

About the JOY Coach

Minling Chuang

Minling is the founder of {the JOY depot} and is on a mission to help new entrepreneurs start their dream business. She spent many years working on branding strategies for top brands like Lean Cuisine & Nestle Toll House and launching multimillion dollar products. Now Minling's passion is to help people create profitable businesses they love! She is also a Kundalini Yoga teacher in Venice, CA. Like her on Facebook and follow her on Twitter. And if you want to start your own business, book a clarity session with Minling.

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