It’s time to be honest: Why honesty is the best policy

It’s funny. When I write these JOY notes, I don’t always know ahead of time what I’m going to say. There is no set “calendar” of things I’m going to write about. I’ve been taught to “plan out” my newsletters, yet the thought of planning them out doesn’t feel right to me. It’s much more natural for me to express how I’m feeling and share what I’m feeling in the moment.

I also find myself learning a lesson each week as well. It seems like what I write is what I need to learn too.

Last week, I wrote about being afraid and moving past the fear. It was exactly how I was feeling. I was afraid of what people may think after reading the JOY note. I was afraid of telling someone that I was starting to really like him as more than a friend. Overall, I was plain afraid of being “not good enough.”

The challenge of the week was “To do something that scares you.”

And I did.

I told someone I was starting to like that I was developing feelings for him and asked where he was at with our relationship and how he felt.

It was bold. It was scary. It was honest.

My honesty allowed him to be honest with me. And I believe it will and has strengthen our friendship.

You see, by being afraid of saying something and letting the feelings swirl around inside of me, I was not being honest. I was not being honest to him. I was not being honest to myself.

When we are not honest and truthful to ourselves and others, there is an impact. It may feel like this huge weight on your shoulders. A burden you can’t get rid of.

Because being anything but your own truth will keep you down and eat you up inside. You won’t get the opportunity to learn and grow – to conquer your fears and move past whatever is stopping you.

Fear stops us from expressing our own truth. And it is so very limiting.

It’s not easy to be honest and truthful to yourself. Heck, there are many times when I wanted to avoid the truth because I was too scared to do something about it. I wasn’t ready for the consequences and didn’t want to deal with the aftermath. I wanted to stay in my bubble.

But each time, something inside of me told me it was time to break free and to be true to myself. Because when I am, my true self shows up. I get to dive deeper into who I really am.

I’m sharing this because you might be dealing with the same fears. And it’s ok. Know that you are supported. Know that you are safe.

This week…Be Honest

Be honest with yourself. Be honest with others.

It may be scary. It may be uncomfortable.

You also may not like the new set of challenges it brings.

But, by being honest, you are honoring yourself and others around you.

Maybe you don’t like your job.

Maybe you want more in a relationship.

Maybe you want to get out of a relationship.

Maybe you want to go after your dream even though it sounds crazy.

Whatever it is, go for it. Be true to yourself.

And know that we are here for you. We will support you on your journey.

You can always comment on the post below and share where you are. Why? Because the more you share you’ll get closer and closer to your own personal truth and your JOY.

Also, if you know anyone who would find value from this post, feel free to share it with him or her.

I truly appreciate and am honored by your presence.  Thank you for reading the JOY notes each week!

with peace, love, and joy!


About the JOY Coach

Minling Chuang

Minling is the founder of {the JOY depot} and is on a mission to help new entrepreneurs start their dream business. She spent many years working on branding strategies for top brands like Lean Cuisine & Nestle Toll House and launching multimillion dollar products. Now Minling's passion is to help people create profitable businesses they love! She is also a Kundalini Yoga teacher in Venice, CA. Like her on Facebook and follow her on Twitter. And if you want to start your own business, book a clarity session with Minling.

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