Who needs a relationship when you have a mantra?

Being single is not all it’s cracked up to be but then again, neither is being in a relationship.

I’ve done both and find them to be equally difficult in completely different ways.

Being single is great because you can do whatever, whenever with no one to care. This means that anything is par for the course! Want to drive to Canada on a Friday night to see if you can make it to the border in less than 4 hours? Great! Want to fall asleep on the couch like a hobo after a sweaty yoga class without brushing teeth, washing face or putting on PJs? No problem!

The freedom of being single is, well, it’s nice. Other benefits include; being able to spend copious amounts of time with friends and family, asana practice in underpants, watching all the television and movies you want, reading all the books in the world and singing karaoke while doing housework. All of these things can be done without fear of judgment from others!

Being in a relationship is great because there’s someone to have your back. Need a date for a wedding? Done! Want someone to hug you and tell you everything is going to be alright the moment you want to cry your eyes out? On it! A partner in crime, someone to be your best friend, a person with whom you can create a life, a home, a family? Well, most of these things are done within the scope of a romantic relationship.

The most valuable piece of information, no not advice just information, that I ever received regarding relationships is this…“relationships are complicated.” and at the time it was such a simple statement. Actually, it still is and I find myself returning to it again, and again, and again.

The thing I did not realize until quite recently is that them most important relationship we can cultivate is the one that we have with our Self. No amount of outward searching or approval can fix misalignment that we may have within us.

Road tripping to Canada is great and so is having a date to a wedding but neither of these things define who I am. And, they don’t define who you are, either. They are a part of the ever-changing external world. The one on which, in our society, we increasingly place much of our focus. Sometimes we forget entirely about our expansive inner world.

There are so many things that help us to connect with our own internal light. There is a saying which states that all rivers lead to the same ocean. What works for one may not work for another but what I can say with some amount of conviction is that both yoga and mantra consistently work for me.

When I find I am indentifying too strongly with external factors, I practice both to help me find alignment.

A recent favorite mantra of my is “so hum.” Its meaning? I am that I am. It means that, I am that. What is that? Well, it’s the internal vastness.

And, it’s a mantra that we can all benefit from to become in tune with our inner glow…single or coupled.

Photo Credit:

Couple in a Row Boat by donjd2, on Flickr
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About the JOY Coach

Elizabeth Grepp

Elizabeth Grepp is a three time Cleveland, Ohio boomeranger and Midwestern gal through and through.

She is a yoga teacher, kindness advocate, wannabe vegan foodie, weekend warrior, aspiring photographer and writer as well as vintage enthusiast.

Her first introduction to yoga came while living in San Jose, Costa Rica. Since then, she has not met a yoga that she doesn't like. She takes inspiration from various types of yoga including Ashtanga, Jivamukti as well as Anusara with dashes of Baptiste and Kundalini. Most weekends she can be found teaching happy hour yoga at The Studio Cleveland.

Elizabeth firmly believes in the power of a life of empowered awareness and the ability to live powerfully transformative life by bringing the yogic lifestyle off the mat and into the world.

You can follow her adventures on twitter with the handle @cleyogi or email her at cleyogi (at) gmail (dot) com!

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