Failure teaches success

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Failure Teaches Success – Japanese saying

I will be the first to say it…I am a total failure. I’m actually happy about that. To me it means I’ve done something, actually many things and I keep going and going. What changed for me other than admitting that yes, I have FAILED, is that that 1) I am very happy to admit that fact; and 2) I get back up, I assess and I move forward.

That wasn’t always the case. I had a huge business failure over 15 years ago and out of shame I went into hiding, licking my wounds. The business failure wasn’t the real failure, it was going into hiding and quitting. I felt I let down so many people, but what really was happening is that I let myself down, then I didn’t keep going.  I didn’t have the mental or emotional tools in my 20’s to pick myself up and work through my utter humiliation.

Failure is a sign that you are trying. I stopped trying. I was successful in other areas of my life, but as an entrepreneur I gave up.  I even gave up associating with the word “entrepreneur”. I started to identify myself as a “freelancer”, like I didn’t deserve to call myself an entrepreneur.

Failure sparks ingenuity, spiritual awakening, survival, inner strength, and rebirth. Without failure, we tend to get lazy, never reassessing the patterns we live by or the rules that guide our actions.

I buried me and what I have to offer the world. I let my perception of what others’ thought of me hold me back from my truth and from getting back up, brushing myself off and trying again.

Sometimes walking our walk and listening to then speaking our truth doesn’t go over well with others. It can upset the status quo. My truth may be contrary, quirky, opinionated, outside the box … but it’s mine. My truth and your truth don’t have to be the same and usually won’t be.

These are The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz:

  1. Be Impeccable with Your Word
  2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
  3. Don’t Make Assumptions
  4. Always Do Your Best

With that business failure, I think I blew all Four Agreements, now I use them to guide me going forward. I take great pleasure in my path and use it to help women listen to their inner wisdom to get past their fear of failure so they can achieve everything they want to be do and have.

There still is a little lingering fear that I will fail again; that is human nature. I use the fact that I will fail again to give me a sense of peace in moving forward.  Instead of wallowing in devastation by shaming, blaming and beating myself up, I simply state “that didn’t work out, oh well” and try the next idea.

There is no failure if you can look back and say that you made effort and tried something new. Many people won’t do that, then they settle and live with whatever life gives them.

Failure is success because it means you have put effort into the Universe and the Universe always gives back.

“The only real failure in life is not to be true to the best one knows.” ~Buddha

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Cheryl Bigus

Cheryl is a personal development coach and mentor who helps women free themselves from hormonal imbalances, weight issues and chronic stress so they can achieve confidence in the way they look and feel without using boot-camp workouts and deprivation diets.

Cheryl takes great joy in helping women unearth their happiness and desires and would love for you to contact her for a free "Frantic to Euphoric" Breakthrough Session. She is a Healthy-Life Coach who can be contacted at and on Facebook.

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