Don’t be perfect

2013 - Don't be perfect

Growing up I always thought I had to be perfect — the perfect daughter for my parents, the perfect student in school.  You name it, perfection was a standard I had to meet.

But as I was striving to be perfect, I came to realize I was far from it.  And it crushed me.

I didn’t always get straight A’s.  I got into massive arguments with my dad.  I was caught in a conundrum and it was the basis of my self worth issues.

Although I hated being perfect, it still had a spell over me. I didn’t feel love unless I received approval from people around me.  I didn’t feel good about myself unless I was perfect (or as close as possible).  I would cringe when I didn’t get the right answers in school.  I was mortified when I would stumble on a few words while giving a speech in school.  Everything in my life pointed towards me being not good enough because no matter how hard I tried to be perfect, I wasn’t.

The idea of perfection was reinforced in high school.  I always saw the popular kids in school as being as close to perfect as possible.  They had the right clothes, knew exactly what to say, and they could do no wrong.  Everyone loved them.  Because I wasn’t as perfect as them, I didn’t feel like I was good enough in high school.  And I became a shy wallflower.

It was around that time that I also started to equate success with the word perfect — that I could only succeed if I was perfect.

This thought pattern ran the show for a long time.  And as a result, I was afraid of making my own decisions because it meant I may fail and for a perfectionist, that was too much for me to handle.

So instead of following my heart and my dreams, I stayed on the safe route.  If I knew what was coming, I could handle it with ease and everyone would love me and therefore I would be successful.

But as the years wore on, I felt boxed in.  I was bored with my life.  You could say I was unsatisfied with doing the same things with no purpose.

Over the years, through lots of self development work, I discovered that being perfect was not the way to go.  Instead, striving to be perfect was hindering me from living MY life!

So in this week’s Simple Tip to bring JOY to your Life & Business, I share why you should ditch perfection.



In order to get where you want to go, you have to be willing to take chances.  This means you can’t be perfect.  If you are perfect then you’re really not taking chances.

Sometimes things work in your favor and sometimes things don’t.  But it’s ok.

You see, perfection stops you from being who we are meant to become.  It paralyzes you from taking action.  It keeps you exactly where you are.

Take a quick peek at your life and see where perfection may be running the show.

Maybe it’s in your job?  Maybe it’s in your business?  Maybe it’s with your family or friends?  Maybe it’s the house your own or the car you drive?

Ask yourself if you’re really happy with each part of your life.

Maybe you’ve always wanted to start your own business, but have been afraid to because you’d be giving up your perfect lifestyle.

Maybe you have a business, but are afraid to launch your product because it’s “not just right yet.”

Maybe you haven’t proposed to your girlfriend because you’re waiting for the right time.

Forget all of that nonsense! The time is now to act.  No more waiting for the situation to be “just right”.  There is no right time or perfect moment.

Go for what you really want!

Start it now!

Overtime you’ll get better.  You will learn and grow.

I had no idea how to make these videos a few months ago, and I’ve gotten better at it over time.  I didn’t let making it look perfect stop me from doing it.

Mandy Hale said it best, “Life isn’t meant to be lived perfectly…but merely to be LIVED. Boldly, wildly, beautifully, uncertainly, imperfectly, magically LIVED.” (you can tweet this)

So go out and ditch perfection!

And let me know one thing your going to do now that you’ve dumped the idea of being perfect by commenting below!

About the JOY Coach

Minling Chuang

Minling is the founder of {the JOY depot} and is on a mission to help new entrepreneurs start their dream business. She spent many years working on branding strategies for top brands like Lean Cuisine & Nestle Toll House and launching multimillion dollar products. Now Minling's passion is to help people create profitable businesses they love! She is also a Kundalini Yoga teacher in Venice, CA. Like her on Facebook and follow her on Twitter. And if you want to start your own business, book a clarity session with Minling.

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