When to say No!!!

2013 - When to say NO!

Can the word “NO” be good?

Why yes of course!

Looking back at my childhood, I remember saying “NO” a lot.  If I didn’t feel like doing it, I said “NO”.  If I didn’t want to eat something, I said “NO”. No No No!  It was such a liberating word.

Well, as I grew up, I learned that “NO” is not the answer people want to hear.  People want “YES” and saying “NO” is frowned upon.  This was especially apparent when I worked in a corporate environment where you were expected to do what you’re told and make things happen.  I mean, how can you say “NO” to your boss?

But what if we were right when we were little.  What if saying “NO” actually helps you.  What if saying “NO” will make you successful.

Saying “NO” can do all those things, but you have to know when to use it.

In this weeks episode of Simple Tips to bring JOY to your Life & Business, I share the sure fire way to deciding when to say “NO”.


Knowing when to say “NO” can help you figure out what’s right for you.

You see, we need to have guard rails in our life so to speak.  If we say “YES” to everything, chances are we’d be very overwhelmed and unable to focus on the task at hand because our brains would be filled with all these random thoughts and projects.

“NO” sets the boundary.  “NO” is a filter.

Just look at your life.  Did you say “NO” to various career options when you were looking or even areas to study in college or even certain relationships?  Choosing “NO” is powerful.  It helps you clear the clutter that surrounds you and helps you focus.

For example, this week has been super busy for me. I had a number of clients with deadlines, I needed to pack and move, I had to finish this newsletter to send out, and a so much more bunch of little things.  As much as I wanted to, I couldn’t do it all.  So I had to choose what to say “NO” to or else I wouldn’t get anything done!

“…there are often many things we feel we should do that, in fact, we don’t really have to do. Getting to the point where we can tell the difference is a major milestone in the simplification process.” – Elaine St. James (you can tweet this)

So, this week, embrace “NO”.  Take the time to look through your life and figure out what you need to keep and what you don’t.  And of course, please share how you are embracing the power of “NO” in the comments below.

About the JOY Coach

Minling Chuang

Minling is the founder of {the JOY depot} and is on a mission to help new entrepreneurs start their dream business. She spent many years working on branding strategies for top brands like Lean Cuisine & Nestle Toll House and launching multimillion dollar products. Now Minling's passion is to help people create profitable businesses they love! She is also a Kundalini Yoga teacher in Venice, CA. Like her on Facebook and follow her on Twitter. And if you want to start your own business, book a clarity session with Minling.

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